Watch the video above and talk about it with a friend or mentor.
One of the biggest hurdles in a mentoring relationship is just how to get started. Let’s talk about the first steps you will probably take in a mentoring relationship.
- First steps with someone you know.
- First steps with someone “handed off” to you.
- Start by connecting personally.
- Begin to introduce more structure.
- Cast vision for the four mentoring goals.
- Remember: We learn by doing.
[Related: Mentoring Former Mormons]
See Also: Mentoring Basics
Talk About It
- What’s your initial reaction to this topic?
- How did people initiate a mentoring relationship with you? What did you learn from their first steps?
- What questions or fears do you have now about how to get a mentoring relationship started?
- When you invite someone you know into a formal mentoring relationship, what do you need to tell them in that first conversation? Why?
- What are some topics of conversation you’ve heard recently that would provide a bridge into a mentoring appointment?
- How are the first steps after a “hand-off” harder and easier than starting with someone you know?
- Why is it so important to spend time right off the bat intently listening to your mentee?
- Review the four goals of a mentoring relationship (see “Introduction to the Mentoring Process” above). When would you introduce these goals to your mentee? How would you go about it?
- Write a personal action step based on this conversation.