It can be frustrating when someone you’re mentoring begins to flip flop in their faith journey. For instance, maybe they are attending a Christian church one week and the LDS church the next. Maybe their social media feed has changed from sharing Bible verses to sharing General Conference quotes. It is important to understand that this is very normal. Don’t take it personally – it’s just part of the process.
Former Mormons Flip Flop Because They Have Lifelong Ties to the Mormon Church.
Before you can help your friend, you have to understand the what’s going on with them. Why is your friend riding the fence? Remember that Mormonism was their identity for many years. You can not change someone’s identity in an instant. It is hard to transition into a new cultural setting quickly. They have strong ties with their LDS family and friends. Also, many former Mormons miss different aspects of the LDS church, such as potlucks and genealogy. Just remember that that is okay. Do not give up hope. Be there for them; they will come back around.
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Be Steady and Available.
When your friend starts wavering, what should you do? First of all, do not be surprised. This happens all the time. Secondly, hang in their with them. Obviously, God is working on their hearts or they wouldn’t have come as far as they have. Right now they just need someone who knows Christ and is there for them. They need a stable presence who will be patient and loving. Do not give up on them. Be there for them. Be careful not to be too pushy, especially if they are still learning to trust you. Be constant; be available. Continue getting to know who they truly are.
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